KAYE Townsend is a qualified, BACP registered, person-centred counsellor with a private practice in Flackwell Heath, Bucks. She is currently writing a self-help book, write articles for various publications & work as a volunteer counsellor for a local charity. Here she answers letters in her Bucks Free Press agony aunt column.

To contact her, email kayebt@sky.com

Dear Kaye,

For 6 months now I have been seeing a man & we have decided to get married. My problem is that my 2 sons who are 35 & 39 say they think he is marrying me for an easy life. He has a part-time job & lives in rented accommodation & I am working full time, have a good pension, I own my home & have various investments.

My children are worried I will end up supporting him. I trust this man & just look forward to a happy life together although I did have to admit to them that I will be paying for the wedding & honeymoon to Dubai. How can I reassure them that I know what I am doing & that there is no need to worry?

Lorraine, 63, Hazelmere.

Dear Lorraine,

I think if you looked at the situation from their point of view you would fully understand their concern. Although I am sure you feel you have given this plenty of serious thought, if you read your letter back, you have stated that he has nothing & you have financial security. This is what your children are seeing as they are not emotionally involved with this man.

Could you set up a meeting with both of your sons & the man you plan to marry & let them ask him questions that will put their minds at rest? This way you will also hear how he intends to contribute towards your lives together, both financially & emotionally. I’m sure they just need to feel that you are in safe hands. Best wishes for your upcoming marriage,

Kaye.